STOP LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND IF YOU ARE NOT A WIFE MATERIAL

Is the title for Today’s Motivational Message
Written by Counselor Adofoli

It is alarming to know how a lot of singles are not marriage materials but are looking for marriage. Some ladies of today are looking for husband material when they know very well they are not wife material. Just as no one invests in something which has no future, no man will spend a dime with the aim of getting married to you if you refuse to add value to your life to become a marriage material first.

Many singles are out of order; with no work, no place of abode, no plan for the future, still perching with their friends and relying on parents for survival, yet are out there looking for a life partner. It is a total shame you don't have money to get a new boxer short but you are busily chasing a lady for sex, a lady for whom you don't have what it takes to give her a new pant, even if she marries you.

Some ladies are putting pressure on men to come and see their families, to take them to the alter, whilst they have no moral standards, sleep with guys without knowing their surname, home or family. A wife material does not sleep with a boyfriend rather a husband.

Instead of looking for a job to afford their basic needs, they are rather looking for men and pressurizing them for marriage and by so doing they can be taken care of.

If you have to get into a relationship just for help or to meet your needs, pay bills, school fees, rent, etc then you are not a marriage materials. If all you do is to borrow clothes, take pictures with them, upload on social media just to get a guy to date, then you are not a marriage material.

There are ladies who cannot cook for themselves, wash their own clothes, clean their own home, or take better care of themselves but are in relationships and keep asking themselves, why is he not coming forward to ask for my hand in marriage? For some the men have gone for an engagement list from their family yet have no plans of getting married to them.

The reason why he is not getting married to you is because he doesn't see a wife in you. You are not a wife material to him but he is comfortable having you as a girlfriend because you are a "girlfriend material".

Just as no one puts money into a vending machine when it is out of order, so would a man never put something in a woman when she is out of order. If you can't help him to help you by putting your life in order, how can you help your marriage in the future when he marries you?

And guys, if you have your life in order, ready for marriage and meet a woman who has all it takes to be a wife for you, don't play with her. Don't waste her time.

If she can cook a meal in this world full of restaurants and processed microwaveable food, you have a wife material. If she can make time wash in the mist of all the laundry, you can be assured you have a wife material.

If you meet a woman who puts the things of God above telenovela and want to spend more time with you than the television, in this world of soap operas, then you can be sure you have found a wifely material.

If she claims to be in love with you yet very selfish, always at the receiving end, can't do anything without expecting something in return then she is not wife material. You can't have a lasting marriage without God's building material called love. If you meet someone who loves to serve and help others without asking for anything in return, who is selfless not selfish, then you have found a wife.

This is a woman who can give you the view of the future through their own actions and eyes. Be with someone who is trustworthy for you don't have to rely on their "Trust Me" for their actions spoke the truth you need.

In conclusion "Our purpose is to do what is right, not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of others" - 2 Corinthians 8:21 (GNT)

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NEW A - Z ALPHABET LIFE TIPS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

A – ACCEPT : Accept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.

B – BREAK AWAY : Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.

C – CREATE : Create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.

D – DECIDE : Decide that you’ll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.

E – EXPLORE : Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you’ll learn more about yourself.

F – FORGIVE : Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.

G – GROW : Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.

H – HOPE : Hope for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.

I – IGNORE : Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.

J – JOURNEY : Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, an you’ll grow.

K – KNOW : Know that no matter how bad things seem, they’ll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.

L – LOVE : Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there’s room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there’s room for endless happiness.

M – MANAGE : Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you’ll suffer less stress and worry. Then you’ll be able to focus on the important things in life.

N – NOTICE : Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.

O – OPEN : Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there’s still much to be thankful for.

P – PLAY : Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.

Q – QUESTION : Ask many questions, because you’re here to learn.

R – RELAX : Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.

S – SHARE : Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.

T – TRY : Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You’ll be amazed by what you can accomplish.

U – USE : Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that’s wasted has no value. Talent that’s used bill bring unexpected rewards.

V – VALUE : Value the friends and family members who’ve supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.

W – WORK : Work hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.

X – X-RAY : Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you’ll see the goodness and beauty within.

Y – YIELD : Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you’ll find success at the end of the road.

Z – ZOOM : Zoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.